Luck, Resilience, and the Subconscious Mind
March is a month of renewal, transformation, and strength. As we welcome spring’s fresh energy and honor Women’s History Month, it’s the perfect time to reflect on how we shape our own opportunities.
Too often, we see luck as something that happens to us, but what if we could create it instead? What if the same inner power that fueled history’s most resilient women also lived within us, waiting to be awakened? This month, let’s explore how to break free from limiting beliefs, cultivate opportunity, and embrace our power.
Creating Your Own Luck: A Mindset Shift 🍀
Luck isn’t a matter of superstition—it’s a mindset shaped by our subconscious. By changing our beliefs and actions, we naturally invite more opportunities. Here’s how:
1. Take More Chances – Luck finds those who step outside their comfort zones. Say yes to something new.
That’s exactly how I started creating my own luck. In 2012, at an event called Golf and Guitars, I went to see Jana Kramer. I found out one of my favorite songs wasn’t on the setlist, and instead of staying quiet (like I normally would), I remembered a quote from We Bought a Zoo: “You know, sometimes all you need is 20 seconds of insane courage.” I used those 20 seconds to walk up to Jana and ask her to sing it. Not only did she sing it—she brought over her guitarist and performed it right there for me and my girlfriend. That single moment sparked everything: my path into radio, the entertainment industry, and the life I’m building now. All because I took a chance and believed that maybe, just maybe, I could create my own luck.
2. Reframe Setbacks as Redirection – Not every door opens when we want it to. Sometimes the opportunities we crave the most slip through our fingers—but that doesn’t mean the story ends there. Setbacks often serve as redirections, guiding us toward something even better.
I’ve had my share of moments where something I wanted didn’t work out—a job I thought was meant for me, an interview opportunity that disappeared, even personal relationships I tried to hold onto for too long. What I’ve learned is that every single one of those so-called setbacks ended up redirecting me to something better. I wouldn’t be where I am today if those doors hadn’t closed. Now, I try to trust the process instead of fighting it.
3. Build Strong Relationships – No one creates luck entirely alone. The people we surround ourselves with—the mentors, friends, and supporters—can open doors we never even knew existed.
At Golf and Guitars, I also met Damien Horne, who was part of the band The Farm Inc. Damien became one of my biggest supporters and closest friends, helping me land opportunities in radio and with Nashville Country Club. After G&G, I stayed in touch with him on Twitter, kept showing up at shows, and over time, we built a real trust and friendship. When I applied for my first jobs in country music, he gave me a reference letter that truly helped me stand out from other applicants. Building those authentic connections made all the difference. The same was true with Lauren Alaina, one of my first inspirations who I happened to be able to get to know well over the years. She constantly encouraged me to get more involved in the music world, and to this day, she’s one of “Those Kind of Women”—the song she sings about strong women who raise and inspire others. Lauren may not realize it, but her music and heart helped raise me too. I was so determined to build my career that I even offered to work for free just to get my foot in the door and gain experience.
4. Trust Your Intuition – Our inner voice often knows the answer before our conscious mind catches up. Learning to trust that voice—even when logic or fear tells us otherwise—is one of the most powerful shifts we can make.
“Don’t be afraid to take up space and speak your truth.” — Cari Fletcher
There were so many times I overthought opportunities, worried about what people would think, or second-guessed myself. But every time I trusted that gut feeling—that inner nudge to say yes, to show up, to speak up—it led me exactly where I needed to be. Hypnotherapy has helped me rebuild that trust in my own inner voice. Now, I use hypnosis to quiet the noise so I can hear my intuition more clearly—it’s become one of my most important tools for navigating life.
5. Be Prepared for Opportunities – Luck isn’t just about timing—it’s also about preparation. When opportunities arrive, being ready to meet them with confidence makes all the difference.
For me, that meant learning how to market myself in a way that people would have a hard time saying no to. I got my degree in communications, took marketing classes, and leaned heavily on what I learned in my interpersonal communication courses. I also read books like How to Win Friends and Influence People and watched videos to strengthen skills I struggled with. On top of that, I created different versions of my elevator pitch and made sure I always had a business card ready. When TapTag digital business cards became a thing, I jumped on that too. All this preparation shifted my mindset—I stopped believing I was just a lucky person and started believing I made myself a lucky person.
6. Challenge Limiting Beliefs – The stories we carry about ourselves, often inherited from childhood or past experiences, quietly shape what we believe is possible.
“I have learned over the years that when one’s mind is made up, this diminishes fear.” — Rosa Parks
For years, I believed no one cared what I had to say and that asking for something meant I would be told no. Growing up, my mom was the entertainer of our family, so I stayed quiet, assuming I didn’t need to speak up for myself. That day at Golf and Guitars shattered that belief. I learned that when you give people the chance, they might just surprise you. Stepping into the light of who I am to my core was so freeing. It made me who I am and allows me to be unapologetic about it.
7. Stay Persistent – Luck often favors those who refuse to quit. The key is showing up again and again, even when you’re scared.
The hardest conversation I had was believing that people genuinely liked me and wanted to have me around. I don’t know why that was so hard for me to grasp. But I’ve learned that persistence pays off. One of my proudest moments was when I started reaching out to artists for interviews on my own blog—and they said yes. The best interviews I’ve ever done were with LoCash and Caylee Hammack, and those experiences taught me that showing up for yourself opens doors you never expected.
8. Embody Positive Energy – The energy we bring into situations shapes what we attract.
When I stopped fearing the word “no,” everything shifted. I realized I was worthy of a “yes”—and if a “no” came, it simply meant it wasn’t meant for me. That mindset freed me from trying to control the outcome and allowed me to show up fully, knowing that every interaction had value, no matter how it turned out. When we expect good things, we naturally act in ways that attract them.
9. Follow Your Curiosity – Curiosity is a compass. When we follow what sparks our interest, we create new paths.
Taylor Swift once said, “I’m intimidated by the fear of being average.” That fear pushed her to follow every creative impulse, from songwriting in her bedroom to re-recording her masters on her own terms. For me, the scariest—and most rewarding—risks were that first Golf and Guitars moment and later, deciding to leave radio when I realized it wasn’t the right space for me anymore. Sometimes, I think about going back part-time just to work events, but I also trust that every pivot brings me closer to where I’m meant to be.
10. Be in the Right Place – Luck loves visibility. Show up where the action is.
“Visibility is so important. You need to see yourself in order to understand you’re not alone.” — Hayley Kiyoko
I made sure to put myself in the places where the artists I wanted to work with would be—whether that meant buying a meet-and-greet ticket or showing up at every event I could. Being seen and being present created the relationships that opened doors.
